How to be the (Gentle but Firm, Kind, Loving) Boss in Your Family

There has been well-publicized criticism of parenting in the news lately. Parents have been told that they are being overrun by their kids and that they are not performing their roles as heads of the family. This is pretty confusing for moms and dads who have made...

Using Punishment and Reward to Motivate Good Behavior? There’s a More Effective Way :

When you punish kids, you are using your power of bigness and superior knowledge as weapons to make them do what  you want. When you use rewards, like carrots in front of a donkey, you diminish their dignity and their right to be respected. But, when you think of your...

Single Parents: 9 Steps to Help You Cope

When you find yourself on your own, whether separated, divorced or widowed, it’s always a tremendous shock. Your whole life has changed, especially the future you envisioned. Also the present: now you’re on your own and raising your children alone. I know,...

For Stressed Parents: A Way to Help

  I’ve had a lot of parents tell me that lack of time is a real problem.  Many families have two parents working outside the home and are balancing home and office precariously.  Associated with it all is a pressing feeling of guilt as parents think...

Kids Fighting? What to Do

Years ago, I was at my wits’ end because of my kids’ fighting.  I couldn’t stop it no matter what I did.  I tried everything I knew but it kept on happening.  The boys were  6 and 4,  and the screams of the younger one brought me from any place in...

Raising Kids – We All Have Our Bad Days

All parents have days when they wonder if they’re meant to have children. I know I had those days. Perhaps you’re having one today! It’s so frustrating to know that you’re handling everything wrong and not be able to do much about it. It got me...

Your Child is Misbehaving. Try Something Different!

It seems that no amount of punishment or bribery can make some kids behave.  In the old days, a threat of a spanking could be a deterrent or, in my case, a trip to the bathroom to “get the wooden spoon” or some hits on my hands with my dad’s belt....

How to Stop Fighting in the Back Seat

I read with great interest that one of the major car manufacturers is putting an intercom system in their vehicles so that parents can yell at their kids more effectively. Yelling isn’t effective in changing children’s behavior and can be damaging to them...

Overwhelmed!

Does this sound like you? You and your spouse or partner are working full time. You have two or three children. You’re stretching to make ends meet so you can pay your credit card bills. You’re struggling to find good daycare for after-school hours. You worry about...

Are you Feeling Isolated and Alone?

Family life is very different from what it was two or three generations ago. Often people were born, grew up, married and had children all in the same town or vicinity. Family units could be quite large, with older family members such as grandparents, aunts or uncles...