How to be the (Gentle but Firm, Kind, Loving) Boss in Your Family

There has been well-publicized criticism of parenting in the news lately. Parents have been told that they are being overrun by their kids and that they are not performing their roles as heads of the family. This is pretty confusing for moms and dads who have made...

“Collapse of Parenting”?

You may have heard about or read an article in Maclean’s magazine (macleans.ca) in Canada or current publications in the USA, about the views of Dr.Leonard Sax, an American physician who has serious reservations about the parenting ability of today’s...

If You Don’t Spank, What Can You Do?

With the close of Bullying Prevention Week just past, I must share with you how shocked I was to find out how many parents believe in spanking their children to “teach” them, or “discipline” them. I posted a couple of pictures on Facebook (see...

How to Take the Stress Out of Your Fall Schedule

School has started again, with the accompanying pressures caused by all the deadlines and tasks associated with getting the kids up and out the door, their homework assignments, sports and after-school lessons. While you’ve been looking forward to having them...

Parenting Methods: What is Yours? Is It Working?

Wow! There are so many different ways to parent these days that it makes your head spin! I’ve come up with a number of them and, in a very simple description they are: helicopter parenting – parents are hovering over their child and are seen as...

Using Punishment and Reward to Motivate Good Behavior? There’s a More Effective Way :

When you punish kids, you are using your power of bigness and superior knowledge as weapons to make them do what  you want. When you use rewards, like carrots in front of a donkey, you diminish their dignity and their right to be respected. But, when you think of your...

Single Parents: 9 Steps to Help You Cope

When you find yourself on your own, whether separated, divorced or widowed, it’s always a tremendous shock. Your whole life has changed, especially the future you envisioned. Also the present: now you’re on your own and raising your children alone. I know,...

How to Prevent the Bedtime Blues

  Bedtime in some families is a horror show.  Parents end up yelling and kids end up crying.  Everyone feels terrible, with parents feeling guilty, knowing they failed to handle the situation constructively.  There are some steps that can be taken that could make...

For Stressed Parents: A Way to Help

  I’ve had a lot of parents tell me that lack of time is a real problem.  Many families have two parents working outside the home and are balancing home and office precariously.  Associated with it all is a pressing feeling of guilt as parents think...

Kids Fighting? What to Do

Years ago, I was at my wits’ end because of my kids’ fighting.  I couldn’t stop it no matter what I did.  I tried everything I knew but it kept on happening.  The boys were  6 and 4,  and the screams of the younger one brought me from any place in...

Kids Talking Back? Six Things You Need to Do

Look at the above picture.  I wonder where he learned that pose!  So young to be sassing back, don’t you think? Unfortunately, if parents don’t change their ways,  their kids’ response to them will become a habit and can be found even more ingrained...
How to Get Your Kids to Learn to Handle Money (and Stop Bugging You for Stuff)

How to Get Your Kids to Learn to Handle Money (and Stop Bugging You for Stuff)

Do your kids constantly ask for treats at the supermarket checkout? Do your teens and tweens want, want, want?  Do they ask for things you can’t afford? Do you feel you’re depriving them if you say “no”? Are you tired of dealing with their...

Raising Kids – We All Have Our Bad Days

All parents have days when they wonder if they’re meant to have children. I know I had those days. Perhaps you’re having one today! It’s so frustrating to know that you’re handling everything wrong and not be able to do much about it. It got me...

Your Child is Misbehaving. Try Something Different!

It seems that no amount of punishment or bribery can make some kids behave.  In the old days, a threat of a spanking could be a deterrent or, in my case, a trip to the bathroom to “get the wooden spoon” or some hits on my hands with my dad’s belt....

How to Stop Fighting in the Back Seat

I read with great interest that one of the major car manufacturers is putting an intercom system in their vehicles so that parents can yell at their kids more effectively. Yelling isn’t effective in changing children’s behavior and can be damaging to them...

Are you Feeling Isolated and Alone?

Family life is very different from what it was two or three generations ago. Often people were born, grew up, married and had children all in the same town or vicinity. Family units could be quite large, with older family members such as grandparents, aunts or uncles...