Family life is very different from what it was two or three generations ago. Often people were born, grew up, married and had children all in the same town or vicinity. Family units could be quite large, with older family members such as grandparents, aunts or uncles living under the same roof with a young couple and their children.
While problems could occur and frequently did, with personality clashes and relationship difficulties, the support of the extended family was usually beneficial. There were many hands to rock a colicky baby or occupy an older sibling and new parents were encouraged to get their rest by someone taking over baby duty in the middle of the night.
These days, people are so mobile that they move away from the community they grew up in. They may not even have lived their whole childhood in one town, but may have had a parent transferred to another city to work or a military parent stationed far afield. They may have left their home communities to go to school and traveled across the continent with their careers.
What has resulted is that there is no mom nearby to help out with a newborn, and no grandparents to help with babysitting. Sisters used to trade babysitting and there was no need for playdates because cousins were just around the corner. Today, sisters may be separated by thousands of miles.
I remember moving to the 19th floor of an apartment building in Toronto, Canada, where I knew nobody. My family and in-laws were thousands of miles away. My newborn had colic, crying incessantly for 4 hours twice a day. I sat on the bed and cried with him. You may be in the same boat, or know someone who is.
What to do? Today, both parents may be working outside their home. They’re challenged by their busy schedules and lack of free time. Many parents go searching for the answers they need on the internet, in “mommy blogs”, and skimming through parenting books and magazines.
A sense of community may be felt through a Facebook group of potty-trainers, for example, but in getting an answer here and an answer there, no reliable, solid track is there to follow that can make a parent feel she is doing the “right” thing, backed up by a support group she can count on.
Are you looking for help or reassurance? Would you like to be part of a group where parents are learning together to find ways of improving their family lives?
I’m offering a way that you can learn and be supported, either on an individual basis or in a small group that will help each other move forward.
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