In my imagination, I saw myself sitting on a pink, fuzzy blanket under a gigantic tree in the bright sunshine with a beautiful, perfect baby in my lap – who of course only knew how to smile serenely up at me in quiet adoration!
Imagine my shock when I gave birth to a colicky baby who cried for 2 4-hour periods daily for 3 months! Then, a second baby arrived and we went through the oh-so-pleasant phase of sibling rivalry which progressed to constant bickering and fighting as the children grew older.
Because parenting wasn’t taught in school, the only way I knew how to bring up children was by imitating what my parents did with me and my siblings when we were children.
But nothing seemed to work with my kids, especially the old way of using punishment and rewards. I was at my wit’s end, wondering what to do to stop the fighting and talking back.